Press J to jump to the feed. If your ex has reached out once, then he will probably do so again. They probably can’t stand the thought of you having moved on without him or her. So it was 8 months later rather than years later, but we broke up 2 weeks before I was planning to propose so I'll count it. During our divorce, she lied and told her father that I was physically abusive and that she had a restraining order against me. Now you have an awesome mate your ex can't compete with in looks & personality so she resorts to manipulation. Was it wrong of me to blatantly call her out? Been out of college 5 years now, haven't seen her since graduation, but it got a lot of weight off my shoulders to have that "We really had no idea how to date, did we?" But damn I miss that dog. The plan was we'd get married and I'd move to where her Pharmacy school was and get a job up there. MadameNoire Featured Video. I innocently never thought he was sleeping with the girls, just going out with them behind my back and kissing them or something. Just don't be an asshole about it. She’s a tall modelesque/yoga instructor, and 6 years younger. Get a restraining order on her if she shows up. After close to 20 years, my ex wife reached out to apologize. Pinterest. Went over to her dorm and we spoke for a few hours. After she found out I was hanging out with her, I never heard from her since. She texted me the next day, apologizing for the previous night. Even to a point her friends would talk to me about things she had recently told them. My mom texts my ex and declines to offer and my ex has the audacity to say "if anything changes, keep me in mind" like WTF, I’m really angry! Don't text your ex impulsively. We were friends for a while, and then we fucked for a while, and then I met my current girlfriend and have't really talked to her or thought about her much since. I couldn’t help her, but I felt devastated for her. I literally started applying to jobs where she lived when I got out of the car. He now realizes that you haven't put your life on hold waiting for him. You are the yardstick she has measured every man since you dumped her - and they have all fallen short of you. I had one reach out about 5 years after we broke up. I then told her that all of these emotions came flooding back to me for her but that I wouldn’t do anything to mess up her engagement. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. Hopefully me calling her out has embarrassed her enough to not try this shit again. After crying, talking, and crying a lot more, he left, and I closed the door behind him. TL;DR: An ex reached out to me after two years to reveal a secret to why it didn’t work out. I confront my ex and she lies and say "oh your mom and I talked a year ago and she asked me out to lunch and I declined cause I wasn’t comfortable at the time. Ex reaches out to me and family right when I start to move on! So I’m 26. Hope things are going well for you man. Her: Well if you're going to be like that! She felt so alone a bad about herself she shut everyone out. Here are 7 reasons your ex might pop up months (or even years!) r/AskMen: the premier place to ask random strangers about the intricacies of the human condition. Don’t be me. I thought after that surely she wouldn’t have anything more to do with me. Honestly, she probably just hadn't been laid in awhile because she started going downhill after high school and only wanted sex from me too. Keep in mind that this is less than a month after I announce my engagement to my now fiancé. At the time, she said she wanted to take a “break” because she no longer felt a “spark” for me. This may well be the reason he deleted the message. I never mentioned her weight gain and was constantly trying to keep a connection alive in our bedroom. From this point on, I knew she was dragging my name through the mud. I’m happy she’s finally leaving me alone. They just can’t stand the thought of someone else coming into your life and picking up the pieces that they shattered. It wasn't years, but it was 9 months after we broke up. I don’t have a relationship with any of my exes. My ex had these things to say to me after our relationship had ended over five years earlier. Press J to jump to the feed. So she rebounded with a guy that was an immature little prick (her words, not mine) and they were together about 7 months (so took her 1 month to rebound). Keep in mind that this is less than a month after I announce my engagement to my now fiancé. talk. Don't acknowledge her whatsoever. 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