This is a core value that you must align on. Girls, never do what he says here. I’m unable to move on ! So a week ago yesterday he packed a bag and left and hasn’t been back. Lastly I sent him sushi and he wrote me that I am crazy, that he really enjoy, that it was the wonderful suprise. Not long after i became pregnant and was trying to get my life nack together like get an apartment and stuff. He told me how much he loved and missed me all day and we watched TV. How do I know if he really means what he says? But well… around a year and a half he cheated of me with some girl he met, he broke up with me and said that he wanted to try dating her, I was destroyed back then… then a week later he told me that she wasn’t what he wanted and that he had made an awful mistake..(come on!) I said “all I can think about is sex & ice cream” he said “OMG, I just told my friend the exact same thing yesterday” (we never eat ice cream). After done his dirty job my ex abandoned me again. Any advice is welcome. He is divorced and has two children. That’s not to say that a guy will not seek a relationship much earlier as a guy does not usually had a large friend network like women who he can discuss his issues with. anyways, why he treat me like im a bad person or something like i will hurt him? He don’t give me a reason and explanation changing his number. On June he decided to come to visit me, then I left with him to his country for holidays. I just Don understand why his decision was with her. This makes him want to make more memories with you at any cost. I wasn’t even being that clingy in our relationship honestly, I double or triple texted at most and all I would honestly ask was that he make time for me. I knew he had seen them but no answer. I refuse to be insecure because of my ex-boyfriend’s actions. I would love to build a family of our own but at least I know it wasn’t because he doesn’t want but he wasn’t sure if he could afford one. If they are single or in bad relationships he will soon stop listening to what they have to say He will start to value what the people he loves says, and the influence of his parents and family will start to make him change his mind. It’s been a while and I don’t know if you guys got back together but I’ve done a lot of research on break ups and relationships. The thing is that he is in a vicious custody battle and his ex is doing everything she can to make his life a living hell. Well, because of the delay after the divorce, we didn’t get everything taken care of as far as small things…bike parts, title & he had to come over to help start my bike because I sold it. He’ll start to listen to his mom when she reminds him that he’d better start learning to cook, clean and sew a button if he doesn’t get her back. Home › Forums › Dating and Sex Advice › Why is it that guys always come back after they decide they're not ready for you. Too bad. This women, after 3 years, left him while he was at work. On my lunch we talk for the whole hour. I had been trying to patch things up with him even though he claimed everything between us was fine. You have stopped paying attention to him, so he views you as a challenge. They being those pesky exes of ours, that is. I really do like talking to him and I am interested in getting to know him better. Using the NC rule. I just don’t know want to say to him after this no contact period, or how to get him to want to talk to me. About three weeks after we start having sex he asked me want I wanted and what was holding me back from fully letting myself go with him. I don’t have vacation yet saved up (he does), I can’t take time off to leave early or have a longer lunch. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don’t you give Prophet Iyare a try they work surprises because i know they will also bring back your husband. I just got out of a 2 month relationship 3 months ago in September. The relationship got rocky because of his family, and he became overly stressed. I had 2 weeks with him. I thought that this was extremely immature. Also no one deserves to be dumped out of the blue. He sounds like a huge loser and user. One day I decided to ask him if they text and he said yes. You are right Magda, I commented before that John’s advise is for the birds. Show genuine concern. I contacted him to tell him the phone was on. So it is hopeless unless he makes the effort to see me. I disagreed & we spoke a bit about it & mid conversation he said he had to go & we’ll speak later. He emotionally and verbally abused me and cheated on me, then broke up with me and blamed me for everything. People keep telling me he will come back but I don’t want to get my hopes up and wait forever. Does he really mean that he LOVES us this time, and can a man change his mind again and really mean it? If at all. Guys are so strange. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. Jump to : Why Men pull away after getting close. One other little item of interest? It is wonderful to love someone. Even if he was not interested in reconciling with you, he will once he finds out your pregnant by him and he cares enough to get the child both parents. Have you ever heard the expression “what is the sound of one hand clapping”? That’s absolutely not true. Should I give him a few days and message him? A few days after the relationship ended we came in contact and started seeing each other again. I applied the no contact rule again & lasted until the 24th of November & he messaged me to see how I was going, I responded thinking he wanted to work things out. The mistake we made when we got back together was picking up where we left off. Hello I would very much appreciate a male perspective for this one. The men that love being single secretly wish they had a relationship and the men in a relationship secretly wish they were single again. There’s this guy I hadn’t met before but spoke to almost everyday on phone. Someone pleeease help me with this! I told him we ought to cut contact as I can’t have somebody in my life who doesn’t care whether they are in it or not & he insisted on being friends, so I agreed as long as he’s in it for good & he said yes. I don’t know if I miss him because I was complaining to him more often than not about our communication and he kept reassuring me that everything was fine and he wanted to be with me. I not spoke to him for a week and he not contacted me do you think he doesn’t want to contact me? There is a somebody for everybody, I really believe this. These guys might have a few casual dates to test the water before deciding you were the one in the first place. Right before he broke up with me he started working out hard core and trying to look younger again, so I can relate to that part as well as any lies. We first met we were really cool with each other and very friendly. It’s been a year since the break up but within this whole year I saw him a lot since we have so many mutual friends which makes things much harder, but everywhere I see him all he does is sit there and stare at me, and recently he’s been doing it so much more and when I look into his eyes I can tell that he’s not over it and I feel like he wants to talk to me. Ever since then i have been so happy and couldnt believe it would happen. I could tell by his tone of voice he didn’t want to hear that.After a while, he admitted he had made a mistake and asked if he could come back home.thank you d,rrivers for freeing him from that hex and making him come to his senses. X, Go on your own time girl! Like I want to marry you and have kids with you. My friends say that he will eventually come back. and just after the spell? This doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re in a serious relationship, that they got over you, and now they have found someone else with whom they are happier. Je said he doesnt know what he wants, he just wants to be alone and have all options open. Good luck. I thought he was going to call i just wanted to give him space i mean my friends suggested i did that but time few by with no call no text the only time he came back to our house was to pick his remaining things. Do guys always come back after they dump you…? Hope this helps , Hello, yes this helps a lot! I wish that I hadn’t become so naggy and self centred. If you have moved on with someone else and your ex shown up, do not even entertain the thought of taking them back. He has not done it. I’m a very friendly person). I am brokenhearted, I miss my bf but I also miss him cause we are best friends. Also we share the same close friends, so sometimes when out with friends he’s there and at parties, but we never speak at all during them. I told him I was afraid of falling in love with him because I do want to get married and have a child and its not something he seems certain about for his future. I am also very happy for you and your daughter, unfortunately, my son willl never be there. The first day I met him, we had sex, and one more after. Now he has plans to go to the beach for a week with his friend and her daughter. This happened last week. it seems although he didnot want to be bother with her and she is a complete scum bag\, because she use to leave the kids alone and always blame him on ex husband. We were together everyday, all day like basically inseparable literally. That’s the deal breaker. I decided to text the guy again today. It sound like you feel as though the connection was very strong. Most men are not trust worthy. You as a woman can never change a man, but instead can open his eyes to a whole new reality that maybe he doesn’t want to face – like the reality of living without you. I had similar experience. That is very cowardly. Take guy number 2 because guy number 1 might be poisonous snake like my ex was. Should I just give up all hope? He depends on his job to give him a vehicle to drive around and a cellphone to use, because he does not have enough money of his own to afford either one. We all know its hard to believe soon we all gonna be parents but for real, it comes when we are not even prepared for it and all we can do then is accept it as it comes. ‘The sad reality is that most guys aren’t getting any straight out of a relationship’. But now he wants to come back. Why should you suffer? Is he seeing someone else? Last time he was single, he was more than likely younger and on top of his “game”. I was floored! Most of the arguments were about the same thing: I felt like he wasn’t respecting my time. Is it the feel of protection, or the feeling that their money is enough to make someone endure their presence until it all blows away or the feeling of love, or is it all these wrapped in one big gift bag? He frankly doesn’t sound like husband material and acts that immature. He almost died 2 times within a week, and not long after that we found out I was pregnant. So when he told me he felt like I want a relationship, it made me believe that he sensed some sort of neediness, hence why I panicked. It happened to me and it was so stressful. I don’t want to be in relationship again but I want him to understand my reasons for testing him. I know I still love him, but I don’t want to push him away. I was a text gnat after we broke up and I pestered him with affectionate texts but I stopped once he hadn’t replied to one text where I apologized for what his mom’s friend said to him about me (she told him he was an idiot and I was an amazing person) and when I officially realized that wouldn’t get me anywhere. I felt something was off and so I asked him if everything was ok. You will have to ride the storm, but once it’s over, the sun will come out. We were arguing and he left and went to his moms. But When i met my firth to be husband,i never expected i will fall for him so much i mean he was so charming cute and for the first time he made me feel safe like he will always be here for me not matter what happens. The text messages are sporadic and never of a sexual nature and we have more occasions when we just go for coffee or dinner than having sex, so although sex may be a motivation as he and his wife does not have sex at all, it is clearly not his main motivation. Why would someone do that? My guy left..I ran to my phone, called & was like WTH?! When they actually try being single, they find that it is much harder to get a girl to sleep with them than they thought. It’s insane. The reality of singledom may be completely different to what he envisioned in his head. This is also what happened to me. Speaking to Mutton Osun healed my heart and gave me hope again. As soon as he gets bored and frustrated with the single life, he will run back to you. I’m devastated, as you can imagine, and that’s why I’m here. I hope this article helped you understand why men pull away and then come back later. At this point we are seeing each other just about four days a week. My blood was boiling with fury!!! She didn’t give asking me what’s going on between me and him and I didn’t really have an answer for her so I told her to ask him that night, and she asked him about it. I even asked him just as a test to see what he’d say, if he would be OK with me talking the other guys. I want to believe that he just has so much going on and the relationship was too much for him at the moment. Why do you think they leave in the first place and most importantly, why do they try to come back months after? If he took a while to respond, I would just keep myself busy until he did. I am crying my eyes out. We finally ended up in good terms and as any couple which broke up, we didn’t have so much contact, but we didn’t feel uncomfortable or awkward when we were close to each other. Is it true that if you love someone let them go and if they come back it was meant to be ? He has told you what he wants Paula. He is taking you for a ride.. As I said, yes, more often than not, a man will come back after he dumps you. I gave him my all and I still care about him. Stupid me. I was heartbroken and he would never speak to me again after 4 years. Hey everyone. He did text me Good morning and good nite and l did answer his text’s.. Then l ask him if that was all there was gonna be…its been two months and he never text or call me back..WHY..I text him one more time and still dead silence.. He says he still has love for me and cares about me but he doesn’t want to be with me. so i responded like nothing not super excited just like a friend. Having a Capricorn man to come back to you from time to time is really something unusual. Maybe the mom was the one who was encouraging him. They are just not nearly as charming or attractive as they thought they were. Jump to : 10 Clear signs Your Man is cheating, Jump to : Stop arguing with your boyfriend and save you relationship. He did and every time he left it was without warning. Harsh but it’s plausible . I am currently in NC mode and have been over a month, yet there has been no progress. He asked me to get some materials which was going to be used to get a spell done to grant my request. Seven years is a long time to spend with someone and them break up. Be careful though, don’t just assume that he came back because he’s not getting sex elsewhere. See ya! shouldnt he know better that to talk to me..he knows I was hurt and really liked him! I just want help. When they actually try being single, they find that it is much harder to get a girl to sleep with them than they thought. He was sweet kind and had a gentle strength about him which I could only compare with my father. Or his heart is in this relationship but is letting me go for something better as how he always feels. CTRL + SPACE for auto-complete. Is he doing this to hurt me or is this forreal. If he says he wants to “play the field”, don’t put yourself on the shelf waiting for him. My question is. As awful and unfair as it feels for a woman, if she can remain loving and be patient and welcome him back if he comes back, then he is hers forever. idk what to do.. torn. If he is seeing someone else, then you will have more clarity on what you would like to do as well. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Do not waste time with someone that ignores your needs. I stopped him and told him you need to take me home so he took me home. My wife being my wife saw this and thought there was no way out and then she felt me filed for a divorce and wanted to take all i had left. My boyfriend of 6 1/2 years broke up with me completely out of the blue. Like you Rebecca, I’ve been a WRECK too in the first month since last seeing him. I felt like I did all I could to avoid making past mistakes. Maybe he wanted to start a family with you, but then his ex appeared in the picture and that changed all his plans. They will feel a need to make it a family and not a broken home. He has kids to pick up after work. What are your ages? He said That he didn’t want a serious relatioship at the moment he want to focus on his carrier but he doesnt want to stop seing me. We had a couple of rough patches over 4 years, maybe 4 or 5, but for the most part our relationship has been really good. but she is there with him cz she is in his university too. He told me he wants to see me again in a few weeks. I may be a sucker, or even have been one in the past, but I have done a lot of “inner healing work” since he left me for the last time, and I am no longer handling things between us the same way. He told me no I needed to leave his house it was over. I don’t have the time or the patience to wait for him to “make up his mind” after already knowing who I am for so many years. He just does not want to hurt anymore from the more recent break up. If he will not speak to you, just keep it moving. The one you deserve.” And I started wailing as he walked out I fell to the ground screaming in agony for him to come back. And I don’t understand what happened to his feelings that I thought he had for me. I won’t beg for him back but just initiate a false friendship with the goal of meeting up. I suggest you respect the answer if you want peace. I thought he wouldn’t have contacted me again, but surprisingly he did – the next day! I have no idea what l did so wrong…yes we were in love at least l still am.but l have no idea why..he’s avoiding me..we talked about marriage.. Now at age l sit here heart broken..I didn’t date anyone for 14 yrs he was my first after my divorce.. Can someone give me shine some light to why this happen…Thx hope l made some sense.. Hi Elsa. I asked him if we could just calm down and talk about this the next day. what should I do? I don’t know what to do I just need some advice. I wish to God that I could see him, but we work the same hours – and I don’t have time to drive up to where he works. He made it seem like he was better than me and I was so sad that 3 years of being in love with someone would turn to this. I met my boyfriend 9 months ago and we hit it off immediately but when he told me he was separated I told him it wasn’t for me. I told him “you know I hope you have a good life and everything goes well and all that and I’m sorry this didn’t work out the way it’s shit I hoped it would’ve ” he then returned said the same thing in wish me well all well and everything. Is that good thing? We rarely speak on the phone and if we do it is very short conversations. and if he ever did contact me again I wouldn’t ask at this point, I am not sure I would ever want to date him again as I was terribly hurt, But I do miss him and would be nice just to be able to say hello now and then. That I loved him. Are any of these signs he may come back?? I really need to know what his deal with me is? Of course, men are complex creatures and I’m just narrowing down some basic attributes and traits here. I then told him me being who I am allows me to love and accept him loved him for exactly who he is and if I was more like him that would not be possible. The friend one, puts so much effort in messaging & emailing me thru-out the day, the other one, who’s flirted w/ me, touched me on arm, & later hugged, kissed me, I’ve expressed I like him and returned & enjoyed our physical contact. The first thing that comes to mind is that they are players. I’m in such limbo. I too have been left by someone recently. We both rarely use Facebook, so i didn’t really care if he was still on there or not. There still is but there was just a lot of insecurity in both our parts. I wish you luck. I went to san diego after 20 years by myself. But he’s kinda wary of it and tbh I am too I’m scared he will hurt me again. I said words to say without thinking about consecuences. I don’t call or send texts, he does all that and I ignore him but he keeps trying. I have always been a BADASS my whole life. 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